Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Fusion Singles Ministry At Christ Fellowship Weekly Update* Memorial BBQ Weekend* Boundaries Study Continues


  "FUSION"
SINGLES MINISTRY
AT
CHRIST FELLOWSHIP

This 
Week's Teaching



Don't Forget
 Saturday 
Night Pot Luck

Dating Cure Confusion?


Great Meeting 
Saturday Night!



It's A Beautiful Day!It's

By Jamie Grace


Boundaries In Dating
"The Cliff"


Between singleness and marriage
 lies the journey of dating. Want
 to make your road as smooth 
as possible? Set and maintain 
healthy boundaries that will help
 you grow in freedom, honesty,
 and self-control.



If many of your dating 
experiences have been 
difficult, Boundaries in Dating
 will revolutionize the way 
you handle relationships. 
Even if you’re happily dating,
 the insights you’ll gain from 
this much-needed book will
 help you fine-tune important 
areas of your dating life

Mark Your Calendar!


Annual Weekend
Memorial BBQ Picnic
May 25, 2014
Sunday
8:00 AM- 5:00 PM

CARLIN PARK
400 S. S.R. A1A
 Jupiter, Florida 33477

Bring A Dish To Share
Sun*Fun*Music
Swimming*BBQ
Fellowship & Games


What A Great
Turnout We Had
At The Pot Luck
Last Week!


Thank You To 
All That Came
And
Brought A Dish!


Great Job Jeff
With Your
 Teaching
On The 
Scarlet Letter!


Last 
Week's Teaching
What Holds
 You Back
 In
 Relationships?

Jesus Is Lord!


First Easter
At
Church In The Mall 



Christ Fellowship 


Powerful Service


Founding Pastor
Tom Mullins 
With
Pastor Dave 


On The Move
Christ Fellowship



Thanks For Everyone
That Turned Out
For Movie Night

We Had A Great Time!


Heaven Is For Real



Heaven Is For Real Is The
 True Story Of A Four-Year Old 
Son Of A Small Town Nebraska 
Pastor Who Experienced Heaven 
During Emergency Surgery. He
 Talked About Looking Down 
To See  The Doctor Operating 
And His Dad Praying In The 
Waiting Room. The Family 
Didn't Know What  To Believe 
But Soon The Evidence Was 
Clear. 

In Heaven, Colton Met
His Miscarried Sister Whom 
No One Ever Had Told Him 
About And His Grandfather 
Who Died 30 Years Before 
Colton Was Born. 

He Shared Impossible-To-
Know  Details About Each. 
Colton Went On To Describe 
The Horse That Only Jesus 
Could Ride, About How 
"Reaaally Big" God And 
His Chair Are, And 
How The Holy Spirit 
"Shoots  Down Power" From
 Heaven To Help Us.

 Told By  Colton's Father 
Often In Colton's Own 
Words, The Disarmingly 
Simple Message Is That 
Heaven Is A Real Place, 
Jesus Really Loves 
Children, And To Be 
Ready...There Is A Coming
 Last Battle.

Grand Opening
Church In The Mall
Christ Fellowship
Boynton Beach
April 20, 2014


Getting Ready 
For Dedication

Pastor Todd & Julie


Pastor Todd & Julie
City Commissioners
Building Contractors
Cutting Ribbon


Main Lobby Area


Christ Fellowship
Welcome Center

Both Services 
Fully Packed



Awesome Praise
And Worship


Powerful Word From
Pastor Todd


New Song

Swallow The Ocean



Big Daddy Weave





"The Only Name

 Yours Will Be"



Dr. Gary Chapman

 Christian Counselor

And Author Of: 

The Five Love Languages ,
writes about the importance of being 
able to express love to your spouse in a
 way that your spouse can understand. 
He calls this type of communicating using 
the five love languages.

Chapman's 

Five Emotional

Love Languages:


· Words of Affirmation

This is when you say how nice your
 spouse looks, or how great the dinner 
tasted. These words will also build your 
mate's self image and confidence.


Examples 

Of 

Affirmations

*Notice They Did Something

*Compliments  *Attentive

*Sincerity  *Appreciation

*Confirming  *Listening

*Nurturing  *Validating


· Quality Time

Some spouses believe that being 
together, doing things together and 
focusing in on one another is the best 
way to show love. If this is your
 partner's love language, turn off the 
TV now and then and give one 
another some undivided attention.

Examples

 Of 

Quality Time


*Attitude  *Doing Things Together

*Having Fun  *Date Night

Hobbies  *Effort *Be Present

*Mutually Rewatding


· Gifts

It is universal in human cultures 
to give gifts. They don't have to be
 expensive to send a powerful message 
of love. Spouses who forget a birthday
 or anniversary or who never give gifts 
to someone who truly enjoys gift 
giving will find themselves with a
 spouse who feels neglected and unloved.

Examples 

Of 

Gift Giving

*Presents  *Thoughtful

*Taking Time To Learn
 What They Like

*Observant  *Acts Of Giving

*Remembering


· Acts of Service

Discovering how you can best do 
something for your spouse will 
require time and creativity. These 
acts of service like vacuuming, 
hanging a bird feeder, planting a 
garden, etc., need to be done with 
joy in order to be perceived as
 a gift of love.

Examples 

Acts Of Service

*Action Related  *Observing

*Not Having To Ask

*See A Need  *Proactive

*Considerate


· Physical Touch

Sometimes just stroking your 
spouse's back, holding hands, or a 
peck on the cheek will fulfill 
this need.

Examples 

Of 

Physical Touch

*Hug  *Holding Hands

*Kiss  *Cuddling  *Handshake

*Non Sexual Touch

*Compassionate  *Sympathetic


Determining Your Own Love 
Language Since you may be 
speaking what you need, you 
can discover your own love
 language by asking yourself 
these questions:

· How do I express love to others?
· What do I complain about the most?
· What do I request most often?

Speaking in your spouse's love 
language probably won't be
 natural for you. Dr. Chapman 
says, "We're not talking comfort. 
We're talking love. Love is something 
we do for someone else. So often
 couples love one another but they
 aren't connecting. They are 
sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."


Emotional Experiences

The number one emotional 
experience reported by folks is
 feeling the presence of God 
in their lives. The emotional high
 of being in love (which generally
 lasts around 2 years) is the
 second highest emotional 
experience that people 
reportedly have.


That is why it can be so difficult 
to try and talk some sense into 
someone who is in the midst 
of falling in love. Chapman stated
 that obsessive love can render
 people mentally incompetent. 
"There's not much difference
 between being in love and
 being insane."




Fading Tingle

And 

Empty Love Tanks

After the first or second year of 
marriage, when the initial "tingle"
 is starting to fade, many couples 
find that their "love tanks" are 
empty. They may have been
 expressing love for their spouse, 
but in reality they may have
 been speaking a different love
 language. The best way to fill
 your spouse's love tank is to 
express love in their love language.
 Each of us has a primary love 
language. Usually, couples don't
 have the same love language.


Tank Check

Dr. Chapman recommends that
 you have a "Tank Check" 3 nights
 a week for 3 weeks. Ask one another
 "How is your love tank tonight?" If,
 on a scale from zero to ten, it is less
 than 10, then ask "What can I do 
to help fill it?" Then do it to the 
best of your ability.




The Five Love Languages 
by Dr. Gary Chapman.

Big Daddy Weave


"Redeemed"


Annual 
Fusion Singles Ministry
 Visit To 
Dunklin Memorial Camp
Prayer Island

Thanks To All That
Came And Helped Out!
Christ Fellowship Church


Dunklin Memorial Camp
Located At:
3342 SW Hosanah Lane
Okeechobee, Fl 34974

Our Fearless Leader Jay 
Hard At Work!

Christian Singles 
Dance Party - "REVIVE!"­

 


We All Had A Great Time!


Curtis Cutting The Rug!


Lorie Is A Winner!


Gaspare
 Presenting Flowers
 To Brenda!

Faith Lutheran Church
555 US Highway 1, North Palm Beach, Fl

* CHRISTIAN SINGLES DANCE PARTY*

in North Palm Beach

FOOD, FELLOWSHIP & FUN!!!

* Featuring: Stevie Won-der
* Inspiring Singles Message

God Bless & Thanks 

For Coming!! 

Faith Lutheran

Church/School 

We All Had A
Great Time At The
Fusion Annual Picnic!


Fusion Singles Annual Picnic!


Jupiter Inlet Lighthouse
At Dawn


Relaxing At 
The Jupiter Inlet


Jay, Gaspare, Brian


Just Another 
Beautiful Day


Fusion's Chef Gaspare


Curtis & Debbie

"Fusion"

  A Single Adult Ministry At
Christ Fellowship Church


           

Oh Happy Day
By


Jesus Culture


CChristian Dating & Fear

The number one word I hear associated
 with Christian dating is: fear. Here’s the deal 
with that: God doesn’t give us a spirit of fear

(2 Tim. 1:7). So if you’re afraid, that comes 
from God’s enemy. 


What God gives Christians
 who are in love is: gentleness, respect, 
patience, self-control, consideration, 
romantic creativity, heart flutters, spine 
tingles, stomach butterflies, and even
 healing  for the broken hearted, if it should
 all go wrong.


You can try and avoid dating 
altogether and call yourself “pure”, but 
make no mistake:
 God is pure, you are not, and nobody
thinks  you are, no matter what you 
call yourself. 

Righteousness isn’t being sinless, 
it’s having  the courage to live your life, 
and live it right. Avoiding dating isn’t 
purity,  it’s not really even avoiding sin,
 it’s just avoiding life. 




If you’re staying away from dating 
because you’ve prayed about it, and 
you’re absolutely sure that this is what 
God wants for you, then you’re doing the 
right thing (for now), and I’m proud of you. 

If you’re avoiding dating, or dating and 
avoiding any kind of intimacy, and you’re
 doing that because you’re operating from
 place of fear, that’s not purity, that’s 
closer to what you’d call cowardice.


And none of you deserve to live for one 
second with that word applied to your life!


The Fear Dance

 You control the thoughts that control
 your reaction.

Not your external circumstances.

No one controls how you think.

No one controls how you react.

(example) A stranger calls you a name. 
Someone you know calls you a name...
You react differently.

You can't control if someone pushes
 your buttons.
But you can control how you think
 and react.

(Note) It is never just about the other
 person.
You can't change them- But you can 
control you. 



6 Christian Points To Look At


1. Take control of your thoughts, feelings
 & actions. Don't try and control what 
you can't control.

2. Take responsibility for your own buttons-
traffic doesn't make you mad- time does
- so leave a little early.

3. Don't give others the power to control
 your feelings- You won't have freedom
 in a relationship without having 
responsibility.

4. Don't look to others to make you happy.
Your fulfillment is not someone else's
 job- God gave that you that job.


5. Become the CEO of your own life and 
trusting God. Give up expectations- stuff
 will not make you happy. Only God can! 
Everything that is negative can be 
transformed into something positive.You
 have to be willing and trust GOD!

6. Recruit Assistants & Helpers - 
Accountability Partners
(Forgiveness) - heals relationships- keep
 giving and asking, trusting GOD always!



RELATIONSHIPS

Three Types Of Relationships:

(1) Relationship With God       
(2) Relationship With Yourself
(3) Relationship With Others  



Raya, Ahava, & Dod

Are Three Different Hebrew Words
 That Mean Love. 

 There are, in total, 7 Hebrew words that

mean love.   The language differentiates

 between the different  types / levels of 

love, as opposed to the English language,

in which  love is used to describe one’s 

feelings for ice cream as well as Jesus Christ.


RAYA: Friendship It’s not all about 

“she’s hot.”  Hell is hot.  Physical

attraction will wane.  You want to be able

 to wake up next to your Raya, your friend
,
 everyday, and know that you are loved 

just the same.


AHAVA: Commitment Living together is 

a test drive.  Ahava is not about test drives. 

 It is about a ferocious love.  The I’m not 

going anywhere kind of love.  The I know 

that I’ll screw up and you’ll still be there for

 me kind of love.  It’s NOT I’ll be with you for 

as long as you make me feel good, but 

once you’re dull, etc, I’m out.  The Bible

 describes love as “suffering long…”  as 

opposed to the world that paints love as 

a picture of tingly, giddy feelings…for 

“the one.”  There is no “one”…that exists 

along with leprechauns, oompa loompas,

 and unicorns.  We’re all fixer-uppers. 


 Ahava anchors you down 

to the one you love.



DOD: Intimacy……When Raya and Ahava 

are present.  When they are not, that

 is when  intimacy can go very wrong.  

Dod is a  source of comfort, connection,

 and pleasure.

  Dod is a gift from God.  




Traits Of Close Friends & Friends



3 Types of Christian Friendships:

Mentor Friendship:The first form of Christian friendship that we talked about was a mentor friendship. In a mentoring relationship we teach, counsel or disciple other Christian friends. This is a relationship based on ministry, similar to the kind Jesus had with his disciples.

Mentee 

Friendship In a Mentee friendship, we are the one being taught, counseled, or discipled . We are on the receiving end of ministry, being served by a mentor. This is similar to the way the disciples received from Jesus.


Mutual Friendship

Mutual friendships are not based on mentoring. Rather, in these situations the two individuals are usually more closely aligned on a spiritual level, balancing the natural flow of giving and receiving between genuine Christian friends. We'll explore mutual friendships more closely, but first, it's important to have a clear understanding of mentoring relationships, so we don't get the two confused.


Mentoring friendships can easily become draining if both parties don't recognize the nature of the relationship and construct appropriate boundaries. The mentor may need to pull back and take time for spiritual renewal. He may even have to say no at times, setting limits on his commitment to the mentee.



Likewise, a mentee who expects too much from his mentor is probably seeking a mutual bond with the wrong person. Mentees must respect boundaries and look for close friendship with someone other than a mentor.We can be both mentor and mentee, but not with the same friend. We may know a mature believer who mentors us in God's Word, while in turn, we take time to mentor a brand new follower of Christ.


Mutual friendships are quite different than mentoring friendships. These relationships don't usually happen overnight. Typically, they develop over time as both friends progress in wisdom and spiritual maturity. A strong Christian friendship blossoms naturally when two friends grow together in faith, goodness, knowledge, and other godly graces.


5 Traits of True Christian Friends

So, what does a true Christian friendship look like? Let's break it down into traits that are easy to identify.Christian Friends Love Sacrificially

John 15:13 

Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. (NIV)

Jesus is the finest example of a true Christian friend. His love for us is sacrificial, never selfish. He demonstrated it not only through his miracles of healing, but more fully through the humble service of washing the disciples' feet, and then ultimately, when he laid down his life on the cross

.If we choose our friends based only on what they have to offer, we'll rarely discover the blessings of a genuine friendship. 

Philippians 2:3 

Says, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves." By valuing your friend's needs above your own, you'll be on your way to loving like Jesus. In the process, you'll likely gain a true friend.Christian Friends Accept Unconditionally

Proverbs 17:17 

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. (NIV)

We discover the best of friendships with brothers and sisters who know and accept our weaknesses and imperfections.If we're easily offended or hold on to bitterness, we'll have a hard time making friends. 


No one is perfect. We all make mistakes now and then. If we take a truthful look at ourselves, we'll admit that we bear some of the blame when things go wrong in a friendship. A good friend is quick to ask forgiveness and ready to be forgiving.Christian Friends Trust Completely

Proverbs 18:24 

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (NIV)

This proverb reveals that a true Christian friend is trustworthy, indeed, but emphasizes a second important truth as well. We should only expect to share complete trust with a few loyal friends. Trusting too easily can lead to ruin, so be careful about putting your confidence in a mere companion. Over time our true Christian friends will prove their trustworthiness by sticking closer than a brother or sister.Christian Friends Keep Healthy Boundaries

1 Corinthians 13:4 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy ... (NIV)

If you feel smothered in a friendship, something is wrong. Likewise, if you feel used or abused, something is amiss. Recognizing what's best for someone and giving that person space are signs of a healthy relationship. We should never let a friend come between us and our spouse. A true Christian friend will wisely avoid intruding and recognize your need to maintain other relationships.


Christian Friends Give Mutual Edification

Proverbs 27:6 

Wounds from a friend can be trusted ... (NIV)

True Christian friends will build each other up emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Friends like to be together simply because it feels good

We receive strength, encouragement, and love. We talk, we cry, we listen. But at times we also have to say the difficult things our dearest friend needs to hear. Yet, because of the shared trust and acceptance, we are the one person who can impact our friend's heart, for we know how to deliver the hard message with truth and grace. 

I believe this is what Proverbs 27:17 means when it says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."My hope is that these five traits will show you areas that may need a little work in your effort to build stronger friendships. But if you don't have lots of close friends, don't be too hard on yourself. Remember, true Christian friendships are rare treasures. They take time to nurture, but in the process we grow more Christlike.




Have You Been Praying
 To God For A 
Christian Husband Or Wife? 



What Does God Say!

Have you been praying to God for a Christian husband or wife? There are probably many ways for you to find him or her—but according to Proverbs 18:22—he’s supposed to find you! This allows for your full and complete focus on God to lead the right man or woman to you. Not the perfect man or woman, but the one who is perfect for you.

So what happens when he or she shows up? Other than seeking wise counsel from godly men and women, you need to be prayerful and discerning. The following character traits are meant to be a guideline not a legalistic rule (grace, grace, and more grace!). How does this potential husband or wife demonstrate the following traits?

Their love for God“This is love for God: to keep his commands
(1 John 2:16)

Is their passion for God first and foremost evident in his life or is it just a colorful background in his busy life? You are compelled to serve God with all your heart because of the love that He has shown you through salvation. You want a spouse who shares your same intensity. His capacity to love you as Christ loves the church will diminish if his love for God is weak from the beginning.

Their commitment to building the kingdom of God“Do the work of an evangelist” 
(2 Timothy 4:5)

Do you ever see them witnessing to the lost or do they demonstrate an indifference to those who are perishing around him? This will be significant in your future marriage as you want a husband or wife who is sensitive to the plight of those on their way to everlasting suffering. His sensitivity reflects a tender heart to you and those around you.

Their generosity in finances, energy, and time“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also”
(Matthew 6:21)

Are they a giver or more of a taker? Have you noticed their generosity or their stinginess? They don’t have to be wealthy to be generous, but rather they are willing to sacrifice their own money, time, and energy for others. There is great joy for a wife whose husband securely entrusts his gifts to God first and shows her great appreciation.

Their willingness to put others before themselves“No one should seek their own good, but the good of others”
(1 Corinthians 10:24)

Do they demonstrate an unselfish attitude or must they get their own way with pouting? A selfish spouse will bring much grief to a marriage especially when children come along. In contrast, a godly spouse will set aside their own desires for you without making you feel guilty about it. They will reflect the grace of God in what they says and do.

Their service to the church“This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God” 
(2 Corinthians 9:12)









A couple who love God with all their hearts will be a dynamic duo for the kingdom of God and establish a godly seed for the future.


Do they simply attend Sunday service or do they actively engage theirselves in the church ministry? There are always opportunities for members to serve not only on Sundays, but with the youth, elderly, small groups, mission trips, etc.; during the week. They should be doing something for his church that other people recognize and can speak to his devotion of doing a good work as to the Lord.

Their biblical knowledge and lifestyle connect with each other“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says” 
(James 1:22)

Do they really know the Bible or do they only have cursory knowledge of basic scriptures? God’s word is open and available to everyone from the uneducated to the collegiate. The fruit of their actions and lifestyle should reflect the desire to not only hear the Word of God, but also how they live it out everyday.

Their intensity and faithfulness in prayer“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective”
(James 5:16)

Do their prayers seem to fall flat or do they reflect a strong faith in God to answer mightily? They don’t have to use pompous sounding wording, rather his prayers are meaningful, heartfelt, and genuine to the Lord. Their prayers ought to stir up a desire in others to believe in God in spite of the circumstances around them.

Their attitude about sin and the world“Do not conform to the pattern of this world,but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good,pleasing and perfect will.” 

(Romans 12:2)

Do they exhibit a repulsion to sin in their life or do they blow it off and make excuses for weaknesses? Are they uncomfortable when surrounded by worldliness or do they blend in? You will know it when you see it. The Holy Spirit within you will raise red flags if he compromises the seemingly insignificant sins in their life.

Their interaction with their family“Put their religion into practice by caring for their own family”
(1 Peter 5:4)

Do they speak begrudgingly of their parents and treat them with dishonor? Or do they exhibit a calm patience and consideration even if his family members don’t return the same grace? A godly spouse is able to respectfully disagree with his elders without causing drama or shame. You will be blessed to have good relations with your future in-laws and they will be the conduit to that end.

Their connection with other Christians“All the believers were together and had everything in common”
(Acts 2:24)

Are they connected with other Christian friends or do they keep to themselves a lot? The presence of believers in their life gives credence to their ability to communicate, to have fun, and to rely on Christian counsel when necessary. Although their friendships shouldn’t monopolize all their free time, their choice of company reflects their level of compatibility.

Take a second look down this list, but this time, make sure that you reflect these traits as well. A couple who love God with all their hearts will be a dynamic duo for the kingdom of God and establish a godly seed for the future.


God Bless You And 
We Hope To See You There
At The Next Fusion Gathering!

Mandisa--- Overcomer


Meeting On Saturdays 7:30 pm
At
Christ Fellowship Church North Campus

5343 Northlake Blvd.
Palm Beach Gardens, Fl 33418

Contact Ministry Leader: Jay Steinhof
Direct: (772) 214-9375


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Christ Fellowship - Palm Beach Gardens, West Palm Beach, Royal Palm Beach, Stuart, and Boynton Beach


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