"FUSION"
SINGLES MINISTRY
AT
CHRIST FELLOWSHIP
This Sunday January 11, 2015
"Winter Jam
Festival"
Where: BB&T Center In Sunrise Florida
When: Sunday, January 11, 2015
Starts At: 6pm
Doors Open At 5pm
We Are Meeting At Christ
Fellowship
In The Front At 330 pm To Car Pool
Any Questions Call Gaspare
561-676-5724
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY
FOR YOUR
LIFE
BY
ANDY STANLEY
Dating Cure Confusion?
Great Meeting
Saturday Night!
It's A Beautiful Day!
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By Jamie Grace
Boundaries In Dating
"The Cliff"
Between singleness and marriage
lies the journey of dating. Want
to make your road as smooth
as possible? Set and maintain
healthy boundaries that will help
you grow in freedom, honesty,
and self-control.
If many of your dating
experiences have been
difficult, Boundaries in Dating
will revolutionize the way
you handle relationships.
Even if you’re happily dating,
the insights you’ll gain from
this much-needed book will
help you fine-tune important
areas of your dating life
What A Great
Turnout We Had
At The Pot Luck
Last Week!
Thank You To
All That Came
And
Brought A Dish!
Last
Week's Teaching
What Holds
You Back
In
Relationships?
Jesus Is Lord!
First Easter
At
Church In The Mall
Christ Fellowship
Powerful Service
Founding Pastor
Tom Mullins
With
Pastor Dave
On The Move
Christ Fellowship
Thanks For Everyone
That Turned Out
For Movie Night
We Had A Great Time!
Heaven Is For Real
Heaven Is For Real Is The
True Story Of A Four-Year Old
Son Of A Small Town Nebraska
Pastor Who Experienced Heaven
During Emergency Surgery. He
Talked About Looking Down
To See The Doctor Operating
And His Dad Praying In The
Waiting Room. The Family
Didn't Know What To Believe
But Soon The Evidence Was
Clear.
In Heaven, Colton Met
His Miscarried Sister Whom
No One Ever Had Told Him
About And His Grandfather
Who Died 30 Years Before
Colton Was Born.
He Shared Impossible-To-
Know Details About Each.
Colton Went On To Describe
The Horse That Only Jesus
Could Ride, About How
"Reaaally Big" God And
His Chair Are, And
How The Holy Spirit
"Shoots Down Power" From
Heaven To Help Us.
Told By Colton's Father
Often In Colton's Own
Words, The Disarmingly
Simple Message Is That
Heaven Is A Real Place,
Jesus Really Loves
Children, And To Be
Ready...There Is A Coming
Last Battle.
Grand Opening
Church In The Mall
Christ Fellowship
Boynton Beach
April 20, 2014
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Getting Ready
For Dedication
Pastor Todd & Julie
Pastor Todd & Julie
City Commissioners
Building Contractors
Cutting Ribbon
Main Lobby Area
Christ Fellowship
Welcome Center
Both Services
Fully Packed
Awesome Praise
And Worship
Powerful Word From
Pastor Todd
New Song
Swallow The Ocean
Big Daddy Weave
"The Only Name
Yours Will Be"
Dr. Gary Chapman
Christian Counselor
And Author Of:
The Five Love Languages ,
writes about the importance of being
able to express love to your spouse in a
way that your spouse can understand.
He calls this type of communicating using
the five love languages.
Chapman's
Five Emotional
Love Languages:
· Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your
spouse looks, or how great the dinner
tasted. These words will also build your
mate's self image and confidence.
Examples
Of
Affirmations
*Notice They Did Something
*Compliments *Attentive
*Sincerity *Appreciation
*Confirming *Listening
*Nurturing *Validating
· Quality Time
Some spouses believe that being
together, doing things together and
focusing in on one another is the best
way to show love. If this is your
partner's love language, turn off the
TV now and then and give one
another some undivided attention.
Examples
Of
Quality Time
*Attitude *Doing Things Together
*Having Fun *Date Night
Hobbies *Effort *Be Present
*Mutually Rewatding
· Gifts
It is universal in human cultures
to give gifts. They don't have to be
expensive to send a powerful message
of love. Spouses who forget a birthday
or anniversary or who never give gifts
to someone who truly enjoys gift
giving will find themselves with a
spouse who feels neglected and unloved.
Examples
Of
Gift Giving
*Presents *Thoughtful
*Taking Time To Learn
What They Like
*Observant *Acts Of Giving
*Remembering
· Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do
something for your spouse will
require time and creativity. These
acts of service like vacuuming,
hanging a bird feeder, planting a
garden, etc., need to be done with
joy in order to be perceived as
a gift of love.
Examples
Acts Of Service
*Action Related *Observing
*Not Having To Ask
*See A Need *Proactive
*Considerate
· Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your
spouse's back, holding hands, or a
peck on the cheek will fulfill
this need.
Examples
Of
Physical Touch
*Hug *Holding Hands
*Kiss *Cuddling *Handshake
*Non Sexual Touch
*Compassionate *Sympathetic
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Determining Your Own Love
Language Since you may be
speaking what you need, you
can discover your own love
language by asking yourself
these questions:
· How do I express love to others?
· What do I complain about the most?
· What do I request most often?
Speaking in your spouse's love
language probably won't be
natural for you. Dr. Chapman
says, "We're not talking comfort.
We're talking love. Love is something
we do for someone else. So often
couples love one another but they
aren't connecting. They are
sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."
Emotional Experiences
The number one emotional
experience reported by folks is
feeling the presence of God
in their lives. The emotional high
of being in love (which generally
lasts around 2 years) is the
second highest emotional
experience that people
reportedly have.
That is why it can be so difficult
to try and talk some sense into
someone who is in the midst
of falling in love. Chapman stated
that obsessive love can render
people mentally incompetent.
"There's not much difference
between being in love and
being insane."
Fading Tingle
And
Empty Love Tanks
After the first or second year of
marriage, when the initial "tingle"
is starting to fade, many couples
find that their "love tanks" are
empty. They may have been
expressing love for their spouse,
but in reality they may have
been speaking a different love
language. The best way to fill
your spouse's love tank is to
express love in their love language.
Each of us has a primary love
language. Usually, couples don't
have the same love language.
Tank Check
Dr. Chapman recommends that
you have a "Tank Check" 3 nights
a week for 3 weeks. Ask one another
"How is your love tank tonight?" If,
on a scale from zero to ten, it is less
than 10, then ask "What can I do
to help fill it?" Then do it to the
best of your ability.
The Five Love Languages
by Dr. Gary Chapman.
Big Daddy Weave
"Redeemed"
Annual
Fusion Singles Ministry
Visit To
Dunklin Memorial Camp
Prayer Island
Thanks To All That
Came And Helped Out!
Christ Fellowship Church
Dunklin Memorial Camp
Located At:
3342 SW Hosanah Lane
Okeechobee, Fl 34974
Our Fearless Leader Jay
Hard At Work!
Christian Singles
Dance Party - "REVIVE!"
We All Had A Great Time!
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Curtis Cutting The Rug!
Lorie Is A Winner!
Gaspare
Presenting Flowers
To Brenda!
We All Had A
Great Time At The
Fusion Annual Picnic!
Fusion Singles Annual Picnic!
Jupiter Inlet Lighthouse
At Dawn
Relaxing At
The Jupiter Inlet
Jay, Gaspare, Brian
Just Another
Beautiful Day
Fusion's Chef Gaspare
Curtis & Debbie
"Fusion"
A Single Adult Ministry At
Christ Fellowship Church
Oh Happy Day
By
Jesus Culture
CChristian Dating & Fear
The number one word I hear associated
with Christian dating is: fear. Here’s the deal
with that: God doesn’t give us a spirit of fear
(2 Tim. 1:7). So if you’re afraid, that comes
from God’s enemy.
What God gives Christians
who are in love is: gentleness, respect,
patience, self-control, consideration,
romantic creativity, heart flutters, spine
tingles, stomach butterflies, and even
healing for the broken hearted, if it should
all go wrong.
You can try and avoid dating
altogether and call yourself “pure”, but
make no mistake:
God is pure, you are not, and nobody
thinks you are, no matter what you
call yourself.
Righteousness isn’t being sinless,
it’s having the courage to live your life,
and live it right. Avoiding dating isn’t
purity, it’s not really even avoiding sin,
it’s just avoiding life.
If you’re staying away from dating
because you’ve prayed about it, and
you’re absolutely sure that this is what
God wants for you, then you’re doing the
right thing (for now), and I’m proud of you.
If you’re avoiding dating, or dating and
avoiding any kind of intimacy, and you’re
doing that because you’re operating from
a place of fear, that’s not purity, that’s
closer to what you’d call cowardice.
And none of you deserve to live for one
second with that word applied to your life!
The Fear Dance
You control the thoughts that control
your reaction.
Not your external circumstances.
No one controls how you think.
No one controls how you react.
(example) A stranger calls you a name.
Someone you know calls you a name...
You react differently.
You can't control if someone pushes
your buttons.
But you can control how you think
and react.
(Note) It is never just about the other
person.
You can't change them- But you can
control you.
6 Christian Points To Look At
1. Take control of your thoughts, feelings
& actions. Don't try and control what
you can't control.
2. Take responsibility for your own buttons-
traffic doesn't make you mad- time does
- so leave a little early.
3. Don't give others the power to control
your feelings- You won't have freedom
in a relationship without having
responsibility.
4. Don't look to others to make you happy.
Your fulfillment is not someone else's
job- God gave that you that job.
5. Become the CEO of your own life and
trusting God. Give up expectations- stuff
will not make you happy. Only God can!
Everything that is negative can be
transformed into something positive.You
have to be willing and trust GOD!
6. Recruit Assistants & Helpers -
Accountability Partners
(Forgiveness) - heals relationships- keep
giving and asking, trusting GOD always!
RELATIONSHIPS
Three Types Of Relationships:
(1) Relationship With God
(2) Relationship With Yourself
(3) Relationship With Others
Raya, Ahava, & Dod
Are Three Different Hebrew Words
That Mean Love.
There are, in total, 7 Hebrew words that
mean love. The language differentiates
between the different types / levels of
love, as opposed to the English language,
in which love is used to describe one’s
feelings for ice cream as well as Jesus Christ.
RAYA: Friendship It’s not all about
“she’s hot.” Hell is hot. Physical
attraction will wane. You want to be able
to wake up next to your Raya, your friend
,
everyday, and know that you are loved
just the same.
AHAVA: Commitment Living together is
a test drive. Ahava is not about test drives.
It is about a ferocious love. The I’m not
going anywhere kind of love. The I know
that I’ll screw up and you’ll still be there for
me kind of love. It’s NOT I’ll be with you for
as long as you make me feel good, but
once you’re dull, etc, I’m out. The Bible
describes love as “suffering long…” as
opposed to the world that paints love as
a picture of tingly, giddy feelings…for
“the one.” There is no “one”…that exists
along with leprechauns, oompa loompas,
and unicorns. We’re all fixer-uppers.
Ahava anchors you down
to the one you love.
DOD: Intimacy……When Raya and Ahava
are present. When they are not, that
is when intimacy can go very wrong.
Dod is a source of comfort, connection,
and pleasure.
Dod is a gift from God.
Traits Of Close Friends & Friends
3 Types of Christian Friendships:
Mentor Friendship:The first form of Christian friendship that we talked about was a mentor friendship. In a mentoring relationship we teach, counsel or disciple other Christian friends. This is a relationship based on ministry, similar to the kind Jesus had with his disciples.
Mentee
Friendship In a Mentee friendship, we are the one being taught, counseled, or discipled . We are on the receiving end of ministry, being served by a mentor. This is similar to the way the disciples received from Jesus.
Mutual Friendship
Mutual friendships are not based on mentoring. Rather, in these situations the two individuals are usually more closely aligned on a spiritual level, balancing the natural flow of giving and receiving between genuine Christian friends. We'll explore mutual friendships more closely, but first, it's important to have a clear understanding of mentoring relationships, so we don't get the two confused.
Mentoring friendships can easily become draining if both parties don't recognize the nature of the relationship and construct appropriate boundaries. The mentor may need to pull back and take time for spiritual renewal. He may even have to say no at times, setting limits on his commitment to the mentee.
Likewise, a mentee who expects too much from his mentor is probably seeking a mutual bond with the wrong person. Mentees must respect boundaries and look for close friendship with someone other than a mentor.We can be both mentor and mentee, but not with the same friend. We may know a mature believer who mentors us in God's Word, while in turn, we take time to mentor a brand new follower of Christ.
Mutual friendships are quite different than mentoring friendships. These relationships don't usually happen overnight. Typically, they develop over time as both friends progress in wisdom and spiritual maturity. A strong Christian friendship blossoms naturally when two friends grow together in faith, goodness, knowledge, and other godly graces.
5 Traits of True Christian Friends
So, what does a true Christian friendship look like? Let's break it down into traits that are easy to identify.Christian Friends Love Sacrificially
John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. (NIV)
Jesus is the finest example of a true Christian friend. His love for us is sacrificial, never selfish. He demonstrated it not only through his miracles of healing, but more fully through the humble service of washing the disciples' feet, and then ultimately, when he laid down his life on the cross
.If we choose our friends based only on what they have to offer, we'll rarely discover the blessings of a genuine friendship.
Philippians 2:3
Says, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves." By valuing your friend's needs above your own, you'll be on your way to loving like Jesus. In the process, you'll likely gain a true friend.Christian Friends Accept Unconditionally
Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. (NIV)
We discover the best of friendships with brothers and sisters who know and accept our weaknesses and imperfections.If we're easily offended or hold on to bitterness, we'll have a hard time making friends.
No one is perfect. We all make mistakes now and then. If we take a truthful look at ourselves, we'll admit that we bear some of the blame when things go wrong in a friendship. A good friend is quick to ask forgiveness and ready to be forgiving.Christian Friends Trust Completely
Proverbs 18:24
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (NIV)
This proverb reveals that a true Christian friend is trustworthy, indeed, but emphasizes a second important truth as well. We should only expect to share complete trust with a few loyal friends. Trusting too easily can lead to ruin, so be careful about putting your confidence in a mere companion. Over time our true Christian friends will prove their trustworthiness by sticking closer than a brother or sister.Christian Friends Keep Healthy Boundaries
1 Corinthians 13:4
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy ... (NIV)
If you feel smothered in a friendship, something is wrong. Likewise, if you feel used or abused, something is amiss. Recognizing what's best for someone and giving that person space are signs of a healthy relationship. We should never let a friend come between us and our spouse. A true Christian friend will wisely avoid intruding and recognize your need to maintain other relationships.
Christian Friends Give Mutual Edification
Proverbs 27:6
Wounds from a friend can be trusted ... (NIV)
True Christian friends will build each other up emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Friends like to be together simply because it feels good.
We receive strength, encouragement, and love. We talk, we cry, we listen. But at times we also have to say the difficult things our dearest friend needs to hear. Yet, because of the shared trust and acceptance, we are the one person who can impact our friend's heart, for we know how to deliver the hard message with truth and grace.
I believe this is what Proverbs 27:17 means when it says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."My hope is that these five traits will show you areas that may need a little work in your effort to build stronger friendships. But if you don't have lots of close friends, don't be too hard on yourself. Remember, true Christian friendships are rare treasures. They take time to nurture, but in the process we grow more Christlike.
Have You Been Praying
To God For A
Christian Husband Or Wife?
What Does God Say!
Have you been praying to God for a Christian husband or wife? There are probably many ways for you to find him or her—but according to Proverbs 18:22—he’s supposed to find you! This allows for your full and complete focus on God to lead the right man or woman to you. Not the perfect man or woman, but the one who is perfect for you.
So what happens when he or she shows up? Other than seeking wise counsel from godly men and women, you need to be prayerful and discerning. The following character traits are meant to be a guideline not a legalistic rule (grace, grace, and more grace!). How does this potential husband or wife demonstrate the following traits?
Their love for God“This is love for God: to keep his commands”
(1 John 2:16)
Is their passion for God first and foremost evident in his life or is it just a colorful background in his busy life? You are compelled to serve God with all your heart because of the love that He has shown you through salvation. You want a spouse who shares your same intensity. His capacity to love you as Christ loves the church will diminish if his love for God is weak from the beginning.
Their commitment to building the kingdom of God“Do the work of an evangelist”
(2 Timothy 4:5)
Do you ever see them witnessing to the lost or do they demonstrate an indifference to those who are perishing around him? This will be significant in your future marriage as you want a husband or wife who is sensitive to the plight of those on their way to everlasting suffering. His sensitivity reflects a tender heart to you and those around you.
Their generosity in finances, energy, and time“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also”
(Matthew 6:21)
Are they a giver or more of a taker? Have you noticed their generosity or their stinginess? They don’t have to be wealthy to be generous, but rather they are willing to sacrifice their own money, time, and energy for others. There is great joy for a wife whose husband securely entrusts his gifts to God first and shows her great appreciation.
Their willingness to put others before themselves“No one should seek their own good, but the good of others”
(1 Corinthians 10:24)
Do they demonstrate an unselfish attitude or must they get their own way with pouting? A selfish spouse will bring much grief to a marriage especially when children come along. In contrast, a godly spouse will set aside their own desires for you without making you feel guilty about it. They will reflect the grace of God in what they says and do.
Their service to the church“This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God”
(2 Corinthians 9:12)
A couple who love God with all their hearts will be a dynamic duo for the kingdom of God and establish a godly seed for the future.
Do they simply attend Sunday service or do they actively engage theirselves in the church ministry? There are always opportunities for members to serve not only on Sundays, but with the youth, elderly, small groups, mission trips, etc.; during the week. They should be doing something for his church that other people recognize and can speak to his devotion of doing a good work as to the Lord.
Their biblical knowledge and lifestyle connect with each other“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says”
(James 1:22)
Do they really know the Bible or do they only have cursory knowledge of basic scriptures? God’s word is open and available to everyone from the uneducated to the collegiate. The fruit of their actions and lifestyle should reflect the desire to not only hear the Word of God, but also how they live it out everyday.
Their intensity and faithfulness in prayer“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective”
(James 5:16)
Do their prayers seem to fall flat or do they reflect a strong faith in God to answer mightily? They don’t have to use pompous sounding wording, rather his prayers are meaningful, heartfelt, and genuine to the Lord. Their prayers ought to stir up a desire in others to believe in God in spite of the circumstances around them.
Their attitude about sin and the world“Do not conform to the pattern of this world,but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good,pleasing and perfect will.”
(Romans 12:2)
Do they exhibit a repulsion to sin in their life or do they blow it off and make excuses for weaknesses? Are they uncomfortable when surrounded by worldliness or do they blend in? You will know it when you see it. The Holy Spirit within you will raise red flags if he compromises the seemingly insignificant sins in their life.
Their interaction with their family“Put their religion into practice by caring for their own family”
(1 Peter 5:4)
Do they speak begrudgingly of their parents and treat them with dishonor? Or do they exhibit a calm patience and consideration even if his family members don’t return the same grace? A godly spouse is able to respectfully disagree with his elders without causing drama or shame. You will be blessed to have good relations with your future in-laws and they will be the conduit to that end.
Their connection with other Christians“All the believers were together and had everything in common”
(Acts 2:24)
Are they connected with other Christian friends or do they keep to themselves a lot? The presence of believers in their life gives credence to their ability to communicate, to have fun, and to rely on Christian counsel when necessary. Although their friendships shouldn’t monopolize all their free time, their choice of company reflects their level of compatibility.
Take a second look down this list, but this time, make sure that you reflect these traits as well. A couple who love God with all their hearts will be a dynamic duo for the kingdom of God and establish a godly seed for the future.
God Bless You And
We Hope To See You There
At The Next Fusion Gathering!
Mandisa--- Overcomer
Meeting On Saturdays 7:30 pm
At
Christ Fellowship Church North Campus
5343 Northlake Blvd.
Palm Beach Gardens, Fl 33418
Contact Ministry Leader: Jay Steinhof
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