Monday, March 10, 2014
Raya, Ahava, & Dod Are Three Different Hebrew Words That Mean Love.
A Single Adult Ministry At
Christ Fellowship Church
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Three Types Of Relationships:
(1) Relationship With God
(2) Relationship With Yourself
(3) Relationship With Others
Raya, Ahava, & Dod
Are Three Different Hebrew Words
That Mean Love.
There are, in total, 7 Hebrew words that
mean love. The language differentiates
between the different types / levels of
love, as opposed to the English language,
in which love is used to describe one’s
feelings for ice cream as well as Jesus Christ.
RAYA: Friendship It’s not all about
“she’s hot.” Hell is hot. Physical
attraction will wane. You want to be able
to wake up next to your Raya, your friend
everyday, and know that you are loved
just the same.
AHAVA: Commitment Living together is
a test drive. Ahava is not about test drives.
It is about a ferocious love. The I’m not
going anywhere kind of love. The I know
that I’ll screw up and you’ll still be there for
me kind of love. It’s NOT I’ll be with you for
as long as you make me feel good, but
once you’re dull, etc, I’m out. The Bible
describes love as “suffering long…” as
opposed to the world that paints love as
a picture of tingly, giddy feelings…for
“the one.” There is no “one”…that exists
along with leprechauns, oompa loompas,
and unicorns. We’re all fixer-uppers.
Ahava anchors you down
to the one you love.
DOD: Intimacy……When Raya and Ahava
are present. When they are not, that
is when intimacy can go very wrong.
Dod is a source of comfort, connection,
Dod is a gift from God.
Traits Of Close Friends & Friends
3 Types of Christian Friendships:
Mentor Friendship:The first form of Christian friendship that we talked about was a mentor friendship. In a mentoring relationship we teach, counsel or disciple other Christian friends. This is a relationship based on ministry, similar to the kind Jesus had with his disciples.
Friendship In a Mentee friendship, we are the one being taught, counseled, or discipled . We are on the receiving end of ministry, being served by a mentor. This is similar to the way the disciples received from Jesus.
Mutual friendships are not based on mentoring. Rather, in these situations the two individuals are usually more closely aligned on a spiritual level, balancing the natural flow of giving and receiving between genuine Christian friends. We'll explore mutual friendships more closely, but first, it's important to have a clear understanding of mentoring relationships, so we don't get the two confused.
Mentoring friendships can easily become draining if both parties don't recognize the nature of the relationship and construct appropriate boundaries. The mentor may need to pull back and take time for spiritual renewal. He may even have to say no at times, setting limits on his commitment to the mentee.
Likewise, a mentee who expects too much from his mentor is probably seeking a mutual bond with the wrong person. Mentees must respect boundaries and look for close friendship with someone other than a mentor.We can be both mentor and mentee, but not with the same friend. We may know a mature believer who mentors us in God's Word, while in turn, we take time to mentor a brand new follower of Christ.
Mutual friendships are quite different than mentoring friendships. These relationships don't usually happen overnight. Typically, they develop over time as both friends progress in wisdom and spiritual maturity. A strong Christian friendship blossoms naturally when two friends grow together in faith, goodness, knowledge, and other godly graces.
5 Traits of True Christian Friends
So, what does a true Christian friendship look like? Let's break it down into traits that are easy to identify.Christian Friends Love Sacrificially
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. (NIV)
Jesus is the finest example of a true Christian friend. His love for us is sacrificial, never selfish. He demonstrated it not only through his miracles of healing, but more fully through the humble service of washing the disciples' feet, and then ultimately, when he laid down his life on the cross
.If we choose our friends based only on what they have to offer, we'll rarely discover the blessings of a genuine friendship.
Says, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves." By valuing your friend's needs above your own, you'll be on your way to loving like Jesus. In the process, you'll likely gain a true friend.Christian Friends Accept Unconditionally
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. (NIV)
We discover the best of friendships with brothers and sisters who know and accept our weaknesses and imperfections.If we're easily offended or hold on to bitterness, we'll have a hard time making friends.
No one is perfect. We all make mistakes now and then. If we take a truthful look at ourselves, we'll admit that we bear some of the blame when things go wrong in a friendship. A good friend is quick to ask forgiveness and ready to be forgiving.Christian Friends Trust Completely
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (NIV)
This proverb reveals that a true Christian friend is trustworthy, indeed, but emphasizes a second important truth as well. We should only expect to share complete trust with a few loyal friends. Trusting too easily can lead to ruin, so be careful about putting your confidence in a mere companion. Over time our true Christian friends will prove their trustworthiness by sticking closer than a brother or sister.Christian Friends Keep Healthy Boundaries
1 Corinthians 13:4
If you feel smothered in a friendship, something is wrong. Likewise, if you feel used or abused, something is amiss. Recognizing what's best for someone and giving that person space are signs of a healthy relationship. We should never let a friend come between us and our spouse. A true Christian friend will wisely avoid intruding and recognize your need to maintain other relationships.
Christian Friends Give Mutual Edification
Wounds from a friend can be trusted ... (NIV)
True Christian friends will build each other up emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Friends like to be together simply because it feels good.
We receive strength, encouragement, and love. We talk, we cry, we listen. But at times we also have to say the difficult things our dearest friend needs to hear. Yet, because of the shared trust and acceptance, we are the one person who can impact our friend's heart, for we know how to deliver the hard message with truth and grace.
I believe this is what Proverbs 27:17 means when it says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."My hope is that these five traits will show you areas that may need a little work in your effort to build stronger friendships. But if you don't have lots of close friends, don't be too hard on yourself. Remember, true Christian friendships are rare treasures. They take time to nurture, but in the process we grow more Christlike.
Have You Been Praying
To God For A
Christian Husband Or Wife?
What Does God Say!
Have you been praying to God for a Christian husband or wife? There are probably many ways for you to find him or her—but according to Proverbs 18:22—he’s supposed to find you! This allows for your full and complete focus on God to lead the right man or woman to you. Not the perfect man or woman, but the one who is perfect for you.
So what happens when he or she shows up? Other than seeking wise counsel from godly men and women, you need to be prayerful and discerning. The following character traits are meant to be a guideline not a legalistic rule (grace, grace, and more grace!). How does this potential husband or wife demonstrate the following traits?
Their love for God“This is love for God: to keep his commands”
(1 John 2:16)
Is their passion for God first and foremost evident in his life or is it just a colorful background in his busy life? You are compelled to serve God with all your heart because of the love that He has shown you through salvation. You want a spouse who shares your same intensity. His capacity to love you as Christ loves the church will diminish if his love for God is weak from the beginning.
Their commitment to building the kingdom of God“Do the work of an evangelist”
(2 Timothy 4:5)
Do you ever see them witnessing to the lost or do they demonstrate an indifference to those who are perishing around him? This will be significant in your future marriage as you want a husband or wife who is sensitive to the plight of those on their way to everlasting suffering. His sensitivity reflects a tender heart to you and those around you.
Their generosity in finances, energy, and time“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also”
Are they a giver or more of a taker? Have you noticed their generosity or their stinginess? They don’t have to be wealthy to be generous, but rather they are willing to sacrifice their own money, time, and energy for others. There is great joy for a wife whose husband securely entrusts his gifts to God first and shows her great appreciation.
Their willingness to put others before themselves“No one should seek their own good, but the good of others”
(1 Corinthians 10:24)
Do they demonstrate an unselfish attitude or must they get their own way with pouting? A selfish spouse will bring much grief to a marriage especially when children come along. In contrast, a godly spouse will set aside their own desires for you without making you feel guilty about it. They will reflect the grace of God in what they says and do.
Their service to the church“This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God”
(2 Corinthians 9:12)
A couple who love God with all their hearts will be a dynamic duo for the kingdom of God and establish a godly seed for the future.
Do they simply attend Sunday service or do they actively engage theirselves in the church ministry? There are always opportunities for members to serve not only on Sundays, but with the youth, elderly, small groups, mission trips, etc.; during the week. They should be doing something for his church that other people recognize and can speak to his devotion of doing a good work as to the Lord.
Their biblical knowledge and lifestyle connect with each other“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says”
Do they really know the Bible or do they only have cursory knowledge of basic scriptures? God’s word is open and available to everyone from the uneducated to the collegiate. The fruit of their actions and lifestyle should reflect the desire to not only hear the Word of God, but also how they live it out everyday.
Their intensity and faithfulness in prayer“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective”
Do their prayers seem to fall flat or do they reflect a strong faith in God to answer mightily? They don’t have to use pompous sounding wording, rather his prayers are meaningful, heartfelt, and genuine to the Lord. Their prayers ought to stir up a desire in others to believe in God in spite of the circumstances around them.
Their attitude about sin and the world“Do not conform to the pattern of this world,but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good,pleasing and perfect will.”
Do they exhibit a repulsion to sin in their life or do they blow it off and make excuses for weaknesses? Are they uncomfortable when surrounded by worldliness or do they blend in? You will know it when you see it. The Holy Spirit within you will raise red flags if he compromises the seemingly insignificant sins in their life.
Their interaction with their family“Put their religion into practice by caring for their own family”
(1 Peter 5:4)
Do they speak begrudgingly of their parents and treat them with dishonor? Or do they exhibit a calm patience and consideration even if his family members don’t return the same grace? A godly spouse is able to respectfully disagree with his elders without causing drama or shame. You will be blessed to have good relations with your future in-laws and they will be the conduit to that end.
Their connection with other Christians“All the believers were together and had everything in common”
Are they connected with other Christian friends or do they keep to themselves a lot? The presence of believers in their life gives credence to their ability to communicate, to have fun, and to rely on Christian counsel when necessary. Although their friendships shouldn’t monopolize all their free time, their choice of company reflects their level of compatibility.
Take a second look down this list, but this time, make sure that you reflect these traits as well. A couple who love God with all their hearts will be a dynamic duo for the kingdom of God and establish a godly seed for the future.
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